The key to have a balance between your work and personal life is a sensitive but important strategy: a well-developed plan. The pillar of this plan is most often a person who can help you organize and learn when and how to make compromises.
What is Life Coaching?
Life coaching is the form of coaching that tries to balance all life aspects of the person who hires a coach. Other forms of coaching, however, refer only to partial aspects of personal life or career, says Constantin Cornea, Psychotherapist and Coach at Psievolution Clinique.
A Life Coach helps you analyze aspects related to personal life: family, friends, society, hobbies, sports or professional life: career, profession, professional or personal development courses. The coach tackles psychoanalytical issues (past and patterns learned in childhood), but also aspects related to emotional and social intelligence.
Life coaching is the most complete form of coaching that covers all aspects of a person’s life. Therefore my recommendation would be to find a coach who is trained as a psychotherapist for only he knows in detail what are the defense mechanisms, psychological processes, suppression, unwinding or emotional intelligence. Doubled by the additional studies: university, master, personal and professional development classes and speciality classes about depression, anxiety, drama, couples counseling and more makes this kind a professional the best choice to help you in your discovery journey.
How goes a Life Coaching session?
A session involves a meeting in which the client and the coach approach a subject part of the plan established at the first meeting or a recent or long time problem that affects the client at the time of the meeting. The coach and the client work together to find a solution using the client’s internal resources.
The main idea is that the coaching process is a long process having as only scope the client’s personal development in all aspects of his life.
The Secret of balance between professional and personal life
The secret consists in having a life plan, in following rules, norms and values that add value to his personal life, says the specialist.
The balance is the very quintessence of this plan and the ways discovered with a coach of a solution or approaching of the situations encountered.
The balance between professional and personal life can be achieved as long as the person in question comes to know himself very well, to discover his fears that can create problems and at the same time, the qualities and resources that can help him move on.
In fact, both family and career can represent a fine fabric that if carefully crafted can help the client to reach a high performance model and bring to him, his family and company the best of himself without forgetting his personal needs.
The coach is the external observer, „who has enough experience and professional training but also life experience so that he can be the mirror to show the client where he is wrong and how he can improve his behavior.”
The compromise that solve the problems. Are you willing to do it?
There are compromises related to your values and beliefs, or social or situational compromises. The idea of compromise can be very useful if its purpose is to resolve a conflict or to be able to move forward in a situation that seems hopeless.
But when it comes to family and career I must emphasize that the compromise is often the one that helps balance the two roles. It all depends on how we compromise and the personal costs resulting from this.
Therefore a psychotherapist-coach can help the client to understand the role of assuming or repressing, at the same time encouraging those two aspects to help the process of personal development.
Do not expect the clear plan to bring you perpetual happiness
A well-established life plan does not mean continuous happiness, it means only to assume the responsibilities of your plan and be aware of the possibilities of living your life in a way that maximize your well-being.
A life coaching process does not require you to laugh when you feel the need to cry or to fight when there is no point, on the contrary.
It can help the client understand that these are normal processes that is good to live in a safe environment, such as coaching sessions, to eliminate the major traumas.